The prerequisite is of course that you – as a coachee – have a concern that you want to tackle. This can be, for example:

• a difficult or challenging situation,
• a longer-term issue that moves you and is frequently on your mind,
• or a personal goal that you want to work out through reflection.

You can prepare yourself for the session a little, because the initial question will be something like:

«What should happen in this session, so it would be worth it for you?»

Your coach, a man or a woman, will ask you many questions, listen very well, think, empathize, ask again and provide well-founded, appreciative feedback.

The coaching conversation, which also has playful and creative aspects, will deal with the present and above all with the desired future.

An important tool is developing a wide variety of changes in perspectives, which soon leads to small variations in behavior. These are perceptible not only for you, but also for your others in your social world, thereby leading to further changes.

Your coach assumes that you are the expert on yourself and that you have many resources and abilities that you can use. It is often the case that these have been neglected or forgotten and can be reactivated through coaching.

Your coach will also practise an art of non-knowledge and, so giving you neither advice nor instructions, because what you have discovered or worked out yourself is the best way to actually reach your goals.

The discovery of solutions is a central and at the same time exciting task, because we usually don’t find solutions with the same thought patterns that have led to the problem. In conversations, this shows in statements such as:

• Just now, I realize that …
• I’m really surprised – I’ve never thought about that …
• I do not understand why I was disoriented – it’s really clear to me now …

We call them eye-openers or simply openers.

One reason for the effectiveness of Brief Coaching is that the expert conversation – through newly learned and self-reinforcing effects – produces lasting impact.

Of course, the art of solution-focused Brief Coaching contains many more interesting aspects – you are welcome to discover them yourself in your personal setting.

Coaching cannot replace therapeutic treatment and is therefore not suitable for people who are in a psychologically unstable phase.

I am happy to provide information on this question, free of charge.

Simply send an SMS with the text «Short talk» to 079 640 70 03. I will call you as soon as possible.

• Brief Coaching. A Solution Focused Approach. Chris Iveson, Evan George, Harvey Ratner. 2012
• Coaching – erfrischend einfach. Einführung ins lösungsorientierte Kurzzeitcoaching. Daniel Meier, Peter Szabo. 2008
• Kurz(zeit)coaching mit Langzeitwirkung. Peter Szabó und Insoo Kim Berg. 2006

• Gewaltfreie Kommunikation – Eine Sprache des Lebens. Marshall B. Rosenberg. 2001 / 12. Auflage 2016

• How to solve it. A new aspect of mathematical method. George Polya. 1945 [This work of classic heuristics deals with the teaching and characterization of problem-solving strategies]